Good Enough

In my life coaching practice I frequently hear comments like, "I feel like I'm not worthy or good enough." Or, "I can never do enough." Why is this such a common feeling? Why do so many people feel this way? I believe a lot of it is that we live in a world that has a way of making us feel not good enough or less deserving than others. From social media's portrayal of perfect family lives to all marketing and advertising aiming to make us feel like we need something we don't have to be better, do better, go further etc. Our world is production and ranking driven. It keeps us feeling like we must give all, try harder and struggle through until we hit exhaustion. Then, unfortunately, sometimes we even feel pressure from family members and their high expectations that adds to this feeling of not being good enough. Because of these things it keeps us in a constant state of frenzied striving which in turn makes us feel unworthy or not good enough until we have something or can do something or be something different. So with all of this surrounding us, how do we change a mindset of unworthy to I am worthy and I am enough? How do we muffle this loud voice of failure with most things that meet the eye being all signs pointing to imperfection and lack? With these loud cluttered voices surrounding us often being the predominate voice heard, it's easy to see how that can become the truth we believe. The fact is, however, we have a still small voice inside of us which is the real truth. As human beings it is true that we have a fallen nature. It is impossible to be perfect and therein lies our gift, And He has said to me, "My grace is sufficient for you, for power is perfected in weakness." Most gladly, therefore, I will rather boast about my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may dwell in me. (2 Corinthians 12:9). Embrace and be grateful for your imperfection. Change your mindset from that of a perfectionist which always will lead to a failure to that of a learner. This gives you room to learn, grow, improve and evolve. This is a mindset of a disciple.

Jody McClure
AACC Life Coach