Resurrected Eyes

As a wellness consultant/coach, I have worked with countless individuals in all stages of life. Each having their own circumstances and situations that differ in a myriad of ways. The differences far out way the similarities but, I have found that, the similarities are profound! They speak into the heart of human existence. In the human heart is an extraordinary desire to be loved, accepted, and affirmed. A desire to belong yet stand out and be appreciated for our uniqueness. Everyone prefers that their good qualities be highlighted and appreciated rather than their flaws be highlighted and criticized. Everyone has a desire to be heard and not looked down upon or judged.  Everyone has a desire to do good. Not only just “do good” but do their best.  I have never had anyone say, “I don’t want to do my best, I like being mediocre.” Nor have I ever had anyone say. “I know what’s “right”, but I’d rather do what is wrong.” I have also found that EVERYONE struggles with something in life. These struggles, although different in their own way, are expressed by sadness, anger, regret, and frustration. It is my observation over the years that all desires of the heart are fulfilled by relationships. Likewise deep sorrows, regrets, fear and hurt derive from relationships with others. The core of the human heart is the desire to be loved, accepted, affirmed, heard, be significant and make a difference. The hurt, pain, sorrows, sadness, mistrust and brokenness that develops is the perception of or the true lack of these needs being fulfilled by relationships. If indeed my observations are correct, that tells me that people are in need. People need connection and relationship. Take a moment to reflect on the ones you know. Do any of them show stress, irritability, sadness, frustration or anger?  Do you think some people are petty or irrational and ridiculous acting. They are behaving that way for a reason. They are lacking one or all these things that humans need at the core. Perhaps see them through new eyes of compassion and understanding instead. What you think they are acting “ridiculous” about is not the core issue. What if a kinder more understanding approach toward them could help fulfill both of your needs? I know how some people behave so I understand how hard that sounds. Try seeing them through eyes of a time when you yourself felt unloved, unwanted, unheard, betrayed, frustrated, angry, confused, alone, rejected. See them through the lens of your heart and fulfill your need to be significant and make a difference. “…For man looks at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.” 1 Samuel 16:7.